You remember when you were a kid and you always said “when I grow up….” and you thought by 20 you’d be grown up and all then BOOM!! Here we are.
For me, this is very confusing because now for those that don’t commute this means you are on your own. Which is both exciting and scary at the same time and knowing that you don’t answer to anyone, but then again you need someone to take care of you. Like some days you wake up and you are just exhausted from all this decision making.
I’m not going to lie, this can be the best time of your life, but also the saddest. You have to take care of yourself and make life changing decisions. Most times you’ll not even notice it. Heading out to parties, showing up for class, paying rent and preparing yourself for exams at the same time because that’s the main reason you are in school or in any position of responsibility.
Balancing out all these things can make us seem like stars in our own movies. Being able to execute all these things while keeping track of what’s happening else where is sort of a miracle in today’s ever evolving world.
But one thing I have realised is that amidst all this, we need to have a sense of belonging or what people call a ‘squad’. These are the people you discuss together with for tests, share trials and talk about the tribulations that engulf your daily lives.
A squad can be of three or more people. As long as you have a support group, you are definitely coming out alive. Though, each squad can be different. Some are constructive while others can just drag you down.
You need to be able to build relationships with people that matter or else you’re going to end up on the wrong side of the road eventually asking yourself the question, how did I get here?
Adulthood is a tricky phase, it can either get worse for some of us or we can do something about it and build memories that a worth remembering.