For almost 90% of the population globally, meeting the right person or partner is what most of us aspire (okay goal) to do. We want to have someone that we will love and care about. Someone we can look in the eye and just laugh hopelessly without a reason. (By the way, don’t always do that, your partner may start to think that you’re making fun of them)
Looking back in time, most of our great grand parents turned 18 and their life long partners had been arranged for them. Imagine you walking around admiring some really dark skinned intelligent lady and then you turn 18 and suddenly you’re being told to marry a lady you have never seen before.
In India, people are still doing arranged marriages but they focus much on looking at compatibility and the like. I recall my people used to do it too till kids started impregnating each other before marriage. So, people started looking for their own partners, someone that they feel matches their goals, ambitions and visions.
Hold on a second, do you all actually look out for those factors when deciding on who you want to settle down with or you just get in and get surprised when they only want one child yet you want 6?
As you answer those questions, let me get to the story that brought us here. So, I have practically not been around the dating game long enough to speak as an expert who has met a lady at the restaurant, bar, toilet or burial. But I have been able to see certain things happen.
I will talk about the online dating age and how some people have been able to find the love of their life on Facebook, Twitter, Tinder, WhatsApp, Telegram, Instagram, Snapchat among others. But that snapchat bit still gets me pulling my kapintos.
So yeah, I have been able to meet bae on social media and its surprising because one would think that for someone who is social, it would be easier to talk to a lady face to face but that hasn’t been easy. I always suffered while my quiet friends would easily approach ladies and get their numbers.
So while on social media, me and bae would once in a while talk to each other but the casual “hi” things before one day we started talking about topics we both agreed on. We later set a date to meet and went out a couple of times until we realized that we matched each other’s interests. That was how our beautiful relationship was born.
For we have become so busy to even get time for ourselves to go out for a beer, make some fine barbecue with friends and that is okay because we have to make the money in this unstable economy.
The truth is that, the Internet came to make this very big village we call earth a small one enabling us to connect with each other using computers, smart phones and many other technologies. Our Facebook friends understand this plight a lot more not forgetting other social media platforms.
It is challenging to accept this as truth but yes, you can actually find the love of your life on social media. What is important is that you take your time to understand each other. Don’t rush simply because you found each other attractive. Find out what they think about your goals and visions. Push them to their worst level of anger and see their reactions.
Please note that there are so many things that could go wrong with on-line dating, but isn’t this the case with the traditional way of dating as well? So, it will always come down to you as a person.
There is a whole lot more to this topic so, please feel free to share your thoughts with me in the comments section and let’s engage in the conversation.
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Author: Moses Echodu
Moses is a freelance writer for Newslibre and Programs Associate at the Uganda Child Cancer Foundation. He loves writing about sports, politics and news around the globe and Inspiring new young people!!