Welcome to my Ted Talk everyone. I hope 2019 is has been great for you so far and you’re all staying hydrated and giving nothing but love.
So, I’m guessing at this point we have all heard about Robert Kelly aka R. Kelly, yes? I have to say in my entire life I’ve never been so disturbed. I’m so confused, I have a lot of questions that I know I might not get answers to but I think I have to address what’s going on because I don’t know who needs to hear this.
Robert Sylvester Kelly
For those that haven’t got a chance to catch up on the recent updates concerning R. Kelly’s alleged involvement in sexual misconduct and other illicit behaviour, then I going to give you a quick news roundup. The famous R&B star been suspected of abusing women for a very long time taking them hostage and doing God knows what with them. He literally imprisons his victims and turns them into his sex slaves.
According to reports by the Time, investigators and lawyers in at least two states are seeking more information about allegations against R. Kelly, after a new documentary series reignited interest in reports of the R&B singer’s alleged sexual misconduct.
So, recently all this came up and blew the internet when a documentary titled, “Surviving R. Kelly” a six-part series that aired on Lifetime from Jan. 3-5 was released. It had different young women and people narrating their horrible experiences with the singer and the kind of things he did to them including him preying on underage girls. I must say, my mind is blown away by the human race once again.
Before, I used to hear about the claims and accusations towards R. Kelly and how his victims kept talking about the torment they went through and I clearly didn’t get it. It was recently that I came across a book titled, ‘Sex Me: Confessions of Daddy’s Little Freak by Daddy’s Girl’ written by one his victims that my eyes were opened.
The things I read in that book, I’ll never be able to unread them. I have to live with that for the rest of my life. The writer describes everything so vividly that you feel you’re literally there. The way she wrote about her pain left me numb. I’d never be able to take that kind of abuse. I could die just from the thought of it.
After reading the book, my mind remained hanging. I felt a lot of bitterness because not just one person has been through this, but many young girls. The man is disgusting. He’s an animal and to think of all the people that looked up to him. The appearances he made and the respect he got, it just drives me crazy.
In review of all that has happened, this has had me questioning these “celebrities” we are all crazy about. You look at this person and wish you had their life or probably you could meet them one day only to find out how twisted they’re. Because, if one man can get away with all this then God knows he’s not the only one. I don’t even know what to make of this!
My mum always says, “before one dies, they see a lot” and I have to say she’s right because some of the things we see and hear in our lifetime, we could never have imagined. Not in a million years. At this point, I want to give up on life. I want to cast the human race out but I know I owe it to myself to do better and help out where I can. But the world we live in gets worse by the day.
I recommend anyone to get themselves a copy of the book. If there’s anything that I have learnt from reading it, is that one should always stay away from toxic relationships.
Sex Me: Confessions of Daddy’s Little Freak by Daddy’s Girl is available on Amazon.
By relationships I don’t mean just the romantic ones, but including those that involve family, friends or the casual type. Look into all of them because some of us have found ourselves trapped in a toxic relationship both knowingly and unknowingly.
You could be in a toxic relationship and not even know most especially the romantic ones where you have no choice but to end them as quickly as possible. You need to understand that people don’t usually change especially character wise and however good you are as a person, that’s just you.
You need to understand that you have the power to control how you live your life and whatever the other person does is on them and not you!
I don’t want to say know your worth because this song has been sung millions of times. But learn how to be selfish at some point. Learn how to look out for yourself all the time. You can only compromise when you get the same energy back because at the end of the day if you are the only one breaking habits. The only one giving up things, that’s enough to let you know that the person you are doing all this for is not in your corner.
Learn how to always choose yourself and stand for what you believe in. Also understand that relationships no matter what kind they’re they are a two-way street. You can’t be the only one giving while the other person is taking. You are human and one day you might run out of what to give.
Follow your gut. I must say, my gut feeling has had me through a lot of things. So, if it makes you feel some type of way do not ignore it. Toxic relationships can be with your parents or anyone. Don’t ignore the signs!
You should also know that your feelings are valid. Just because you aren’t the bread winner doesn’t mean you are not allowed to question somethings. The same applies if someone is older than you. It doesn’t mean they don’t have to hear you out and neither does the difference in your gender whether man or woman make you any less of a human being. Always know when to leave!
As for violence, don’t even get me started! If you’re in a relationship where you find yourself being abused, then trust me on this. If a man or woman hits you once, best believe they’re going to hit you again. Even if it takes 5 years they’ll find a way to harm you.
So, violence is a big no. If someone thinks it’s the answer, then they’re sick and need help. No one wants that kind of person.
As you lay in your bed, I want you think about all the possibilities and signs you could have missed out on that may be a show of proof that you’re in a toxic relationship. If you find yourself in one, I suggest you end it quickly.
That’s all everyone. That marks the end of my Ted Talk.
Also read: Yes, I’ve Said It. Shoot Me!